To Raise Exceptional Children, Teach Them These Values 0 701

Any fact or bit of knowledge we teach a child might be obsolete when they are adults but values endure through all changes.

To parent our children to be exceptional, we must allow our children to experience ‘optimal levels of frustration’ It is our job to love and support them through their struggles but to refrain from solving their problems for them.

We need to equip our children with the insight that their struggles and failures serve as master teachers that help grow them into stronger, more successful people. It is important we help our children overcome the emotional blocks they face, which breed thoughts of small-mindedness and create self-imposed limitations. We must teach them to set high standards for themselves and to never apologize for striving to live up to those higher standards. Our goal as parents should be to encourage our children to think as big as they can, expect nothing less than the best, to have courage and most importantly, to be kind.

Teamwork

To be successful, our children must understand the value that others hold in their lives. We must teach them that fundamental to happiness and success are healthy, supportive and successful relationships. We must encourage our children to get involved in extracurricular activities and give them chores and responsibilities in the home as ways to garner a sense of teamwork into their repertoire of life skills.

It is essential we also involve ourselves in their lives, as this gives us the opportunity to set the standards for the work they need to accomplish inside and outside of the home. The standards we set must be challenging, yet achievable. In doing this, we teach our children to be a valuable asset to each environment they are a part of. The value of teamwork keeps our children from being self-centered and entitled. We must help our children understand they can only go so far in life alone. Our goal must be to show our children that joining forces with others enhances each person’s personal power and elevates the success of all.

Self-care

Personal power and complacency cannot co-exist. We must parent our children to dedicate time and energy whenever necessary to ensure that no important areas of what they need to accomplish are being neglected.

They deserve to have work-time and free-time where they are able to take a minute to feel unrestricted from the weight of their responsibilities. The easiest way to balance work-life for our children is to require they put their responsibilities first and free-time second. This value helps them manage their own lives in a highly effective way. Putting free-time second allows our children to not be bogged down with nagging responsibilities during their free-time, because they have none. When we teach our children to set high standards in all areas of their lives, they will come to see that their hard work rewards their free-time and vice versa.

Seeing possibilities where others see problems

When we teach our children to approach their challenges with a belief in solutions, this encourages them to engage in the creative process of examining and architecting alternate routes up the mountain. Being solution-focused safeguards our children from defeatist thinking. It is our job to teach them that if they cannot find a solution, they must open their mind, seek the advice of others and apply new ideas and suggestions until barriers are removed and their problem is solved. When we parent in this way, our children learn that life is full of possibility when they apply persistence and consistency in thought and action towards solving their problems. When solutions are the focus, we teach our children the all-important skill of pivoting in life whenever necessary.

Motivation

To grow our children in their personal power, we must parent them with a ‘motivation mindset’ by teaching them to consistently monitor, evaluate and adjust to the work ahead of them and their attitude about it and to stay clear of sabotaging beliefs that may drive complacency, too much time on electronics and other roadblocks that interfere in them living up to their higher standards.

One of the best ways to keep our children motivated is to teach them to write things down as a method of defining their goals and direction. Encouragement, validation, and support must be consistent in our parenting. Our children want to live up to our expectations and our acknowledgment of their effort is almost always what they experience as their greatest reward.

Time management

One of the most important values we teach our children is ‘the power of now’

Success is deeply rooted in having exceptional time-management skills. We must parent our children to get their most important tasks accomplished first. It is natural to want to avoid stress but if we can teach our children to get their most stressful tasks done first, the rest of the work they need to accomplish will be much easier.

When our children get caught in the small non-urgent tasks, it pulls them away from the more important aims requiring their attention. It is also important to teach our children to be on time or early to all commitments. No one likes dealing with people who are chronically late. We must parent our children to understand that being on time makes other people respect them and to see them as dependable.

Accepting responsibility

For our children to be and feel successful we must parent them to understand that whatever happens in their life or career, the best path to follow is always to take responsibility for the outcomes, both positive and negative, which are the result of their efforts. If they make a mistake, we must encourage them to see their mistake as a self-created learning experience. We must help them examine what they need to shift and change to avoid making this same mistake in the future. Taking responsibility allows our children to learn the value of humility and to be flexible enough in their thinking to change their approach whenever necessary. We must parent our children to believe that true power is understanding that mistakes gift them with more than they take away from them. It is from their mistakes that all of their new directions will arise. It is important for our children to understand that powerful leadership is not about ego; it is about humility and a willingness to learn.

Kindness

There is no greater a value to teach our children than the value of kindness. Kindness does not turn our children into sappy pushovers. It turns them into classy people who possess good character.

We must teach our children that all people have value and that they can deliver both good and bad news to others with a sense of grace. We must parent our children to be kind to themselves, as our children can be so hard on themselves when things are challenging them. When we are kind to our children, our children believe we see them as deeply valuable. When our children believe that we see them as valuable, they learn to value themselves. Their belief in their personal value sets them up to live their lives with a solid sense of confidence in who they are and what they have to offer. As parents we want to create an emotional environment of kindness that is infectious, contagious and advantageous to the children we are raising. Kindness will take our children further in life than any other human characteristic.

By: Chantal D.

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Modesty and Beauty – the lost connection 0 602

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BiZnomics LIFESTYLE Desk – By Chandi A.

BizNomics Lifestyle Desk - By Chandi ALong dresses and long skirts aren’t my cup of tea. In my teen years I would squirm whenever I had to wear long skirts out to the town. Who would ever show interest in me wearing long skirts or baggy jeans I would question? Guess I am just never going to ever find a boyfriend, I sighed. Dressing modesty wasn’t one of my priorities.

As I grew up and had more control over what I could wear, I was able to strut my stuff, loved the stares and attention that followed. Whether it was my desire for attention in general or being able to capture a man’s attention, it felt darn good.
As a female I am sure you can identify with wanting to dress in the latest fashion and look sexier than the next girl who thinks she is all that. We are socialized to believe that the shorter the hemline and the more skin revealed and of course one eighth of the bosom covered, the sexier we look. But should this really be the case? Through fashion we showcase our personality, sure that is perfectly ok, but do we really need to be skimpy about it?

Ancient Sri Lankan dressing habits illustrate the initial absence of social taboo relating to upper class women exhibiting their breasts. Is there a necessity to repeat history in the 21st century?
When we think of modesty, it is not long skirts and turtle necks. Dressing well is more than just having good taste and style. It is also about knowing your body and knowing what works and what doesn’t. Fashion is not about blindly following trends and styles; it is about wearing something that flatters your figure and reflects your unique style.

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“I always forget how amazing it is to be in nature until I’m actually out in the thick of it, and think to myself, ‘Oh yeah! I should probably do this more often’

I’m not a spiritual person, but it is always in the great outdoor that I’ve had the closest thing to a spiritual experience. Sitting out in the terrace between sets as the sun is rising and there’s nothing but you and the silence. Lying in the sun in the luxurious meadow with a good book or camping in the woods in the middle of nowhere, listening to the whisper of the wind and fall of the water. So much tranquility!

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Life in the countryside of Sri Lanka can be a truly spellbinding experience. In this part of the country it is generally warm during the day but surprisingly quite chilly towards the evening.

Surrounded by lush greenery and a secluded mango-fringed garden fronting the Uva country side, there is an exquisite Villa located in Buttala; one of the best parts of the country for combining lazy days around the lush greenery by exploring the country’s natural wealth.

Milla Holiday Resort has the ideal facilities for a family vacation and honeymooners to experience the village life in the countryside of Sri Lanka. It is unified by the fact that it is totally unique.

Set in Monaragala, the journey towards the resort itself is quite eventful with a few elephants parked in the middle of the road waiting to be fed by motorists bypassing them the Kataragama area. When entering the village, it presented a change of nature suiting to dry weather with where more shrubs and stretches of fields laden with golden crops. It was a joyful endless sight. As far as the eye could go, we saw standing tall plants with ripe grain as we were enchanted by the whole outlook of the village.Milla - 04

Boasting a village life in the countryside, the Holiday Resort offers relaxing stays amid a landscaped garden at Milla. The name ‘Milla’ is given as the whole structure is built centering a Milla tree shielding the resort. The rooms are built with rustic wood that blends with nature and open up to a private balcony facing dense vegetation and solid trees. Split into two separate eco-friendly units, the three bedroom bungalow has a panoramic view of the acres of organic garden heavy with its growth.

The villa has a spacious lounge, dining area and a BBQ facility outside in the garden. The villa’s restaurant serves interesting twists on classic local and international dishes sourcing many ingredients from its organic garden. Guests have the experience of picking various vegetables they would like to include in the meal right before it is prepared from the organic garden. The staff here is just amazing, and is willing to cater to your every whim. A leisurely picnic lunch under a mango tree with peacocks walking about freely is an experience that should not be overlooked.

 

A night at Milla Resort is not going to include a bubble bath and champagne cocktails but an authentic experience of a dip in the Kumbuk Oya. Fenced by the silence and acres and acres of Kumbuk trees, the coldest water which seeps through your body will transfer you to peacefulness.

Hidden away in the Monaragala District, just about 1Km from the Milla Resort is the Maligawila Buddha Statue, the tallest free-standing Buddha Statue in Sri Lanka, at 45ft high. Carved from a single piece of limestone rock, the statue dates back to the 7th century A.D. The site also contains a rock Bodhisattva, standing at 34ft tall. The site also lays claim to the only square moonstone in the world. The surrounding jungle and pleasant walk make it that much more magical. It’s also much more off the beaten track, hence generally you will have the site all to yourself.

In this part of the country, houses are usually inhabited by entire family generations. The people living in these rural areas are generally curious over visitors and quite welcomingly take you to their homes for a cup of tea. Eating simple food in rustic surroundings has its own taste, which you would surely appreciate. During this country side trip, you will experience various aspects of village life, their feelings and emotions, how they scrape a living. It is truly fascinating to experience the simple facts of life focused on fishing, wood carving, bakery, farming, village market, village trekking, a simple herbal tea with homemade kithul jaggery, can be a heaven on earth!

By: Chantal D.
Photography by: T. A. A. N. Siriwardane