To Raise Exceptional Children, Teach Them These Values 1 871

Any fact or bit of knowledge we teach a child might be obsolete when they are adults but values endure through all changes.

To parent our children to be exceptional, we must allow our children to experience ‘optimal levels of frustration’ It is our job to love and support them through their struggles but to refrain from solving their problems for them.

We need to equip our children with the insight that their struggles and failures serve as master teachers that help grow them into stronger, more successful people. It is important we help our children overcome the emotional blocks they face, which breed thoughts of small-mindedness and create self-imposed limitations. We must teach them to set high standards for themselves and to never apologize for striving to live up to those higher standards. Our goal as parents should be to encourage our children to think as big as they can, expect nothing less than the best, to have courage and most importantly, to be kind.

Teamwork

To be successful, our children must understand the value that others hold in their lives. We must teach them that fundamental to happiness and success are healthy, supportive and successful relationships. We must encourage our children to get involved in extracurricular activities and give them chores and responsibilities in the home as ways to garner a sense of teamwork into their repertoire of life skills.

It is essential we also involve ourselves in their lives, as this gives us the opportunity to set the standards for the work they need to accomplish inside and outside of the home. The standards we set must be challenging, yet achievable. In doing this, we teach our children to be a valuable asset to each environment they are a part of. The value of teamwork keeps our children from being self-centered and entitled. We must help our children understand they can only go so far in life alone. Our goal must be to show our children that joining forces with others enhances each person’s personal power and elevates the success of all.

Self-care

Personal power and complacency cannot co-exist. We must parent our children to dedicate time and energy whenever necessary to ensure that no important areas of what they need to accomplish are being neglected.

They deserve to have work-time and free-time where they are able to take a minute to feel unrestricted from the weight of their responsibilities. The easiest way to balance work-life for our children is to require they put their responsibilities first and free-time second. This value helps them manage their own lives in a highly effective way. Putting free-time second allows our children to not be bogged down with nagging responsibilities during their free-time, because they have none. When we teach our children to set high standards in all areas of their lives, they will come to see that their hard work rewards their free-time and vice versa.

Seeing possibilities where others see problems

When we teach our children to approach their challenges with a belief in solutions, this encourages them to engage in the creative process of examining and architecting alternate routes up the mountain. Being solution-focused safeguards our children from defeatist thinking. It is our job to teach them that if they cannot find a solution, they must open their mind, seek the advice of others and apply new ideas and suggestions until barriers are removed and their problem is solved. When we parent in this way, our children learn that life is full of possibility when they apply persistence and consistency in thought and action towards solving their problems. When solutions are the focus, we teach our children the all-important skill of pivoting in life whenever necessary.

Motivation

To grow our children in their personal power, we must parent them with a ‘motivation mindset’ by teaching them to consistently monitor, evaluate and adjust to the work ahead of them and their attitude about it and to stay clear of sabotaging beliefs that may drive complacency, too much time on electronics and other roadblocks that interfere in them living up to their higher standards.

One of the best ways to keep our children motivated is to teach them to write things down as a method of defining their goals and direction. Encouragement, validation, and support must be consistent in our parenting. Our children want to live up to our expectations and our acknowledgment of their effort is almost always what they experience as their greatest reward.

Time management

One of the most important values we teach our children is ‘the power of now’

Success is deeply rooted in having exceptional time-management skills. We must parent our children to get their most important tasks accomplished first. It is natural to want to avoid stress but if we can teach our children to get their most stressful tasks done first, the rest of the work they need to accomplish will be much easier.

When our children get caught in the small non-urgent tasks, it pulls them away from the more important aims requiring their attention. It is also important to teach our children to be on time or early to all commitments. No one likes dealing with people who are chronically late. We must parent our children to understand that being on time makes other people respect them and to see them as dependable.

Accepting responsibility

For our children to be and feel successful we must parent them to understand that whatever happens in their life or career, the best path to follow is always to take responsibility for the outcomes, both positive and negative, which are the result of their efforts. If they make a mistake, we must encourage them to see their mistake as a self-created learning experience. We must help them examine what they need to shift and change to avoid making this same mistake in the future. Taking responsibility allows our children to learn the value of humility and to be flexible enough in their thinking to change their approach whenever necessary. We must parent our children to believe that true power is understanding that mistakes gift them with more than they take away from them. It is from their mistakes that all of their new directions will arise. It is important for our children to understand that powerful leadership is not about ego; it is about humility and a willingness to learn.

Kindness

There is no greater a value to teach our children than the value of kindness. Kindness does not turn our children into sappy pushovers. It turns them into classy people who possess good character.

We must teach our children that all people have value and that they can deliver both good and bad news to others with a sense of grace. We must parent our children to be kind to themselves, as our children can be so hard on themselves when things are challenging them. When we are kind to our children, our children believe we see them as deeply valuable. When our children believe that we see them as valuable, they learn to value themselves. Their belief in their personal value sets them up to live their lives with a solid sense of confidence in who they are and what they have to offer. As parents we want to create an emotional environment of kindness that is infectious, contagious and advantageous to the children we are raising. Kindness will take our children further in life than any other human characteristic.

By: Chantal D.

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Man behind the fashion revolution – Michael Wijesuriya 0 2693

By : Chantal D

“Michael”
Man Behind Fashion Evolution

Each day, we put on clothes that do more than just cover up bodies. We choose clothes that represent our personalities, our moods, the times we live in, our ambitions and our desires. In the Sri Lankan history, there is one man who stand high as a pillar when it comes to fashion whose work is as controversial, and as influential as traditional art.

He became known for his glamorous styles, producing dresses using innovative materials which was quite the unthinkable at the time he stepped in to the industry 27 years ago.

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Seeing his mom dressing up rather elegantly when he was quite young and following her to designers and salons has open up a whole new chapter in his life. His aunt has further influenced him when she moved in with his family where she had her own clothing business.

These experience had made him realize the power that clothing has, where he believes “clothing is a language all of its own”

Born in Sri Lanka, Michael became one of the top fashion icons in 1990’s and 2000. Coming back home after completing his higher education in the United States, he took the challenge in building a fashion empire focusing on luxury to women’s fashion. His resulting success, based on the innovation of both his designs and his business practices, made him the most successful fashion designer in the country. His designs been worn by film stars, celebrities and he became every bride to be’s dream.

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Each and every garment he creates is an innovation of his own, which is a unique peace of art and each of it that leaves his studio has been done by his own hands. Most clothes are made specifically for an individual, as in the case of haute couture or bespoke tailoring and he has no replicas. Although he has a ready to wear line of clothing mostly he’s known as a couture.

Standing high as he can be in the industry and being acknowledge by the honorable President of Sri Lanka for his contribution to the industry, he is one of the most selfless people I have had the privilege to associate.  He has taken more than 20 people under his wings who had absolutely no knowledge of fashion or garments, and taught them everything where he was, believe it or not a complete self-taught artist through trial and error.

A simple man, who live by his rules and a very family oriented where he put most of his time to make people who matters to him happy.

His next ready to wear collection will specifically cater to plus size women where in his eyes, each person should feel confident about their bodies and how they look. It’s an era where everyone wants to squeeze in to a size 8 but not realizing having curves makes a women look more appealing and that is the challenge he took where his next line of clothing will be dedicated for the plus size.

He has been a person who had believed in himself and the God above. Unless you plant your feet firmly on the ground you will lose your identity, thus he is one person who never forgot where he started and who had been there in his pathway lending their hand in many ways in his journey of life.

He is a “Brand” which sometimes impossible to put a price tag to his work of art.

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People fall in love with his work, they fall in love with the man behind the work, because of his talent of capturing their eyes and their heart with his selfless personality. That made his clients kept on coming back to him decade after decade as he became a part of their lives that’s not replaceable.

“Miclael” has become an identity for most women as he created their personality through his creations.

A man who loves racing as a hobby, he has many different talents that’s just natural to him. Painting, music, designing furniture and building them on his own are just a few of his aptitudes.

I think creativity is inside him; never been to a fashion school, he is so strong in his thinking and seeing fashion in his own way, the brand “Michael” has no limits. “Michael” is a name known well in Asia and of course in Europe where people flying just to pick up their dress done by him.

There are many counterfeits and copies for his designs, but none is as close as the bespoke original.

A man who created a ripple throughout the industry of fashion in Sri Lanka is none other than “Michael Wijesuriya” is just “one of a kind” who’s humble enough to know he’s not better than anybody and wise enough to know that he’s different from the rest

Glistering Portraits 0 1009

By: T.V Perera

One reason Sri Lanka is referred to as a resplendent island attributes to its colourful gems in Ratnapura, Elahera, Embilipitiya, Okkampitiya in Buttala and several other places. Among the precious stones un-earthed from gem pits in Buttala are rubies, sapphires, cat’s eyes, moon-stones and garnets. Stones found in rough from are cut and polished by gem-cutters following which their values are assessed based on purity (free of blemish) and weight measured in terms of caratage – a carat being equal to 200 milligrams. Polished gems adorn jewellery, the crown of royalty, and in the past handles of swords of kings. 

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A third grade of although colourful stones were thrown back into the pits in similar manner as stone shavings and filings were discarded as obsolete and of no utility value until things took a turn when gem cutter Saman Ajith Bandara embarked on an artistic handicraft project, producing brightly coloured portraits, wall hangings, photo frames, plaque designs and sceneries with gem shavings and found a ready market for his products.

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In an interview with BiZnomics, Bandara who has his workshop in Buttala said, “I collected shavings of natural stones in their separate colours, which otherwise would have been discarded and began my industry on a small scale”. Explaining previously when shavings were used ha says, “The only instance gem shaving are made use of is when they are filled into small clay pots and hung from roof beams with pure astrological meaning to ward off evil. On a traced map of Sri Lanka, I pasted the shavings giving each topographical district a different colour. Finally I had a 25 coloured map of Sri Lanka”. Bandara’s effort proved to be an instant success as he described, “I took the map to Ratnapura where a gem merchant paid me Rs.6000 on the spot for my handcrafted frame which provided me the necessary encouragement to produce more pictures”.

Glistering-Drawings-03As orders increased, Bandara quit his gem cutting job to devote full time to the new venture, and to assist him secured the services of a close relative Indika who with time, become joint partner of the Crest Mineral Creatines Company they formed in the year 2000. The company presently count 15 artistically talented employees who contribute to its high earnings.

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