Octopus Reef where the Nature is your background 0 1100

By : Chantal D

Vacation, the place where I feel most comfortable is a place where I am calm. A place that is peaceful in its own ways. It is the place to go to get away from all my troubles. It is the one place where I could sit forever, and never get tired of just staring into the deepest blue I have ever seen. It is the place where I can sit and think the best. A place where nothing matters but what is in that moment. The one place capable of sending my senses into an overload. The place I travelled and ended my journey at, the waves are crashing, the sun is setting, and people are laughing and embracing under the sunset.

The way the deep blue waters meet the gritty beige sand leaves me in such awe.

Beautiful scene of nature, fresh air, beautiful people and quite life – all these things comes to our mind when we think of enjoying the natural way of life in full resting from the city bustle. There is almost nothing artificial about this quite gateway. Here you can be with everything that nature can offers you…

There is something divine and mysterious about this Villa beauty, which is the satisfaction in the slower pace of days. A perfect blend of harmony with nature that makes the time stand still.

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Octopus Reef Villas and Beach Cabana is designed for those who love the beach culture offer affordable luxury combining simple elegance, refined design, discreet and attentive service, in place of unique beauty and cultural interest. The perfect destination for a swim, snorkel and surf right on the beach and in the comfort of the simplicity, natural beauty and tranquility that makes the holiday gateway unique and special with the stilt fisherman in the rock pool opposite the Villa and surfers beyond with the sun setting in front of the Octopus Reef, you will amazed to watch nature unfold in front of your eyes. “The Rock” in front of the ocean opposite the Villa is famous with surfers as an International surf destination.

 

The water is like a soft blanket, comforting and inviting in the private rock pool right opposite the villa.

The Villa itself is built for those who prefer space, wood and colonial architecture. The rooms are large with a loft that accommodates two more beds, before it steps out into the wooden beach deck. Each room in the villa sleeps four and is ideal for families and friends to share. The wooden Cabana is only 5 meters from the beach and is built for two persons who love the natural style beach Cabana.

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The best thing about the Octopus Reef is the chef Kokilan who will cook (at cost price) whatever your desire in food, including a BBQ to grill the fresh seafood caught in the vicinity consisting of calamari, fish, prawns etc. you have to order early for lagoon crabs, lobster and oysters. Breakfast is included while the chef and the kitchen is given for you free of charge, where you can buy groceries and kokilan will cook meals for you at cost price.

 

Experience the breathtaking scenery and life revolving around a “reef pool”, get physical with outdoor activities in the area or simply indulge in the privacy and luxury of a beach house or beach cabana.

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Octopos reef, a perfect romantic getaway, to relax in the sand while soaking up the sun sipping a thambili or have the most memorable intimate moment lying down in the beach with few candles gives the light, staring in to the endless sky where starts writing yet another story  of love from the depths you cast upon the beach.

One minute you are relaxing lazily on the sandy seashore reading a most invigorating book while eating the most fabulous banana fritters and ice cream done by its very own chef “kokilan”

This beautiful gateway is situated in Kabalana (2.5km past the Fortress Hotel in Koggala) adjoining the Kabalana Beach Hotel before Ahangama, Weligama and Mirissa. This gives you access to a wide range of activities nearby including swimming, snorkeling, body boarding & surfing. Kabalana Sea offers a rock pool, swimming and a safe sea where you can walk 300 meters at waist level water to catch the wave. Octopus Reef offers you free use of body boards and snorkels. The rock pool opposite the villa is a snorkeling paradise with fish and coral, ideally before 8am and in the evenings.

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There are many other fun things to do around Kabalana such as visiting the ancient Kathaluwa Temple with temple art, the Great Martin Wickramasinghe Folk Art Museum in Koggla, the Virgin White Tea Estate(with guided tours) and whale watching in Mirissa.

Octopos reef, a place you can let go of yourself or the place to find yourself back!

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The Most Important Question of Your Life 0 1090

By : Chantal D

Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.

Everyone would like that — it’s easy to like that.

If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything.

 

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A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is “what pain do you want in your life?” “What are you willing to struggle for”? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence — but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blasé boundaries of an endless cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, without the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth.

Everybody wants to have great sex and an awesome relationship — but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there. So they settle. They settle and wonder “What if?” for years and years until the question morphs from “What if?” into “Was that it?” And when the lawyers go home and the alimony check is in the mail they say, “What was that for?” if not for their lowered standards and expectations 20 years prior, then what for?

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life.

At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. Its negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

People want an amazing physique. But you don’t end up with one unless you legitimately appreciate the pain and physical stress that comes with living inside a gym for hour upon hour, unless you love calculating and calibrating the food you eat, planning your life out in tiny plate-sized portions.

People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you don’t end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not.

People want a partner, a spouse. But you don’t end up attracting someone amazing without appreciating the emotional turbulence that comes with weathering rejections, building the sexual tension that never gets released, and staring blankly at a phone that never rings. It’s part of the game of love. You can’t win if you don’t play.

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

There’s a lot of crappy advice out there that says, “You’ve just got to want it enough!”

Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just aren’t sure if it’s what they really want, if its what they want “enough” to sacrifice for.

Because if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also bare the costs. If you want the beach body, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten thousand.

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.

Sometimes I ask people, “Why do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

That answer will actually get you somewhere. It’s the question that can change your life. It’s what makes me, “me” and you, “you”. It’s what defines us and separates us and ultimately brings us together.

For most of my adolescence and young adulthood, I fantasized about being a musician — a rock star, in particular. Any badass guitar song I heard, I would always close my eyes and envision myself up on stage playing it to the screams of the crowd, people absolutely losing their minds to my sweet finger-noodling. This fantasy could keep me occupied for hours on end. But even then it was never a question of if I’d ever be up playing in front of screaming crowds, but when. I was biding my time before I could invest the proper amount of time and effort into getting out there and making it work. First, I needed to finish school. Then, I needed to make money. Then, I needed to find the time. Then… and then nothing.

Despite fantasizing about this for over half of my life, the reality never came. And it took me a long time and a lot of negative experiences to finally figure out why: I didn’t actually want it.

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I was in love with the result — the image of me on stage, people cheering, me rocking out, pouring my heart into what I’m playing — but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it. Repeatedly. Hell, I didn’t even try hard enough to fail at it. I hardly tried at all.

Our culture would tell me that I’ve somehow failed myself, that I’m a quitter or a loser. Self-help would say that I either wasn’t courageous enough, determined enough or I didn’t believe in myself enough. The entrepreneurial/start-up crowd would tell me that I chickened out on my dream and gave in to my conventional social conditioning. I’d be told to do affirmations or join a mastermind group or manifest or something.

But the truth is far less interesting than that: I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story.

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

This is not a call for willpower or “grit.” This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.”

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friends.

It’s Time for Professional Societies to Be Bold and Wise 0 671

Boldness is a leadership trait to be mastered. Here are actions that make bold people admirable.

The day I went off to university, a friend gave me this quote. Over the years it has inspired me and I have seen it posted on the walls and bulletin boards of many entrepreneurs and leaders.

Bold people stand out from the group. They are confident, courageous, and directed. I believe there is boldness in most people. Given the right set of circumstances, many will take action to better the world around them.

People who choose to be bold are inspiring not just because they get big things accomplished, but because they also instigate growth, progress, and movement for themselves and others around them. Sadly, far more people wait for someone who is bold to lead the way, hoping somehow luck will shine success upon them.

Perhaps it is time to unleash the bold leader in you. Try adding these actions to your daily repertoire and see how much faster the magic of boldness takes you toward success.

01. They own their flaws and strengths. There is a difference between boldness and carelessness. Bold leaders have strong self-awareness. They know when they should take bold action and when they are out of their element. They minimize the risk for themselves and others by constantly reassessing themselves and engaging others to accommodate for personal weakness.

Want to be a bold leader?

Be more self-aware. Engage others who can complement your strengths and compensate for your weaknesses.

02. They keep clear priorities. Someone who constantly jumps into action without a plan is not bold- just foolish. Bold people know their objectives and prioritize them clearly. They can afford to be bold because they can recognize the right opportunity when it comes along.

Want to be a bold leader?

Know clearly what you need to accomplish and seek those changes that will move the team forward. Avoid unimportant activities that lead to distraction.

03. They speak up. Bold people are not necessarily loud or boisterous, but when they have something to say they say it. More importantly, they understand when and how to say it. Being bold does not equal being a bully or a loudmouth. Bold leaders must be better at tact and empathy because the very nature of their words will carry power and impact. Bold leaders also understand that silence is often the greatest statement one can make, and they use it judiciously.

Want to be a bold leader?

Say what needs to be said before the silence derails the team.

04. They pair action with knowledge. Even though bold leaders are prone to action, they are rarely considered rash. They apply the same sense of action to learning and due diligence as they do to any other activity. Bold leaders want to make sure their actions lead to success, so they investigate before leading their team to the charge.

Want to be a bold leader?

Improve your odds of success by doing your homework. You’ll increase your confidence and your success rate.

05. They accept the value of failure. No one is totally comfortable with failure, but bold leaders understand that greater rewards stem from greater risk. Still, they know how to mitigate catastrophic risk and how to protect their team. Bold leaders also know how to use risks to their advantage. They harness the energy and adrenaline and make sure that every failure is a learning opportunity.

Want to be a bold leader?

Make failure an acceptable part of your process. Teach the team how to assess and limit risk, so missteps can happen without total destruction. Then get people to learn and reboot.

06. They make the most of small wins. Many people sit and wait around for the “right opportunity” before they are willing to step up and take action. Sadly, sometimes that right opportunity never comes. Bold people understand that rarely is any situation perfect from the beginning. They look to make the most of any given set of circumstances that can lead to victory, even a small one. Cumulatively, consistent little wins spell success, attracting followers.

Want to be a bold leader?

Start with a small battle you think you can win, map out a plan, and take the field. Winning builds confidence as well as your reputation.

07. They build momentum. Bold people recognize that a single victory is not enough to sustain leadership. They work to create a series of actions that help the team gather confidence, speed, and power. They have a sense of when to add energy to drive forward and when to let the momentum itself carry things forward efficiently.

Want to be a bold leader?

Craft your plan so that each action takes advantage of the success from the last. Take advantage of any win that gains attention, respect, and popularity. Activate your fans, cultivate relationships, build buzz. Don’t coast!

By: Chantal D.