Cheaters would have done it differently! 0 383

By: Savannah Audrey

Cheating is a complicated business. Sometimes, the relationship is falling apart, or one person isn’t getting his needs met, but other times, it’s not always easy to get to the bottom of what makes someone cheat. And most of the time, someone who cheats is looking for an emotional connection as much as it is a physical one.Trusting

“Cheating allows someone to escape,” Joshua Klapow, PhD, clinical psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show, tells Bustle. “They can be with a person where problems and conflicts don’t exist, where they get respite, support, and validation.” And yet, affairs aren’t always that simple.

 

In fact, it looks like a lot of people who have cheated wish that their affairs had gone a little differently. Ashley Madison, on the extra-marital affairs website, recently shared a survey that discovered 53 percent of cheaters wished they had approached their affairs differently. Although interestingly, the survey doesn’t look at how many people (if any) wished they hadn’t had one at all.

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What do cheaters wish that they had done differently?

Well, a lot of the regrets, perhaps unsurprisingly, revolved around wishing they had put a lot more thought into their infidelity before they just jumped right in. Here’s what the survey found

 

They Wished They Spent More Time Seeking Out The Right Affair Partner:

It’s easy to see why you’d want to make sure it was with the right person. Not just someone who’s discreet, but someone who is going to give you whatever it is that you think you’re really looking for. Many of them wish they had put some more time in at this stage.

 

They Wished They’d Been More Explicit And Direct About What They’re Looking For In An Affair:

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Tymeron Carvalho: The Crystal Ball of Fashion 0 476

By Michelle Alles

Tymeron Carvalho, or ‘Tymo’ as he is known amongst his friends, is every lady’s eye candy but sorry, he’s taken. Tymeron has been in a committed relationship with his partner, Andre Estefan for a very long time together, the two of them are just perfection.

Tymeron Carvalho,Tymeron is no stranger to the world of fashion, having started his career at 16 years of age, when he appeared in his first TV commercial. Twelve years later, he has come a long way and amassed a tremendous amount of experience, not just by walking the ramp for many of Sri Lanka’s top designers, but by bagging the main title for Best Model of The World 2013 along with three mini titles, Mr Friendship, Best National Costume and Best Runway Model. In 2016, he won a special award for Asia’s Best Fashion Model at Fashion Asia awards and he was placed in the top 6 out of 39 countries at the Mr Supranational Asia 2018 pageant last year. Tymeron’s not one to rest on his laurels; as a creative and talented individual, his fashion evolution saw his designing outfits for Miss Universe Sri Lanka and Miss World Sri Lanka since 2012 and his breath-taking designs have wowed audiences on many a fashion ramp in Colombo.

Tymeron has recently been working on a few projects – some of which he can’t reveal yet – but that’s all the more reason to get curious and ‘stalk’ his social media for more details. He sat down with us to answer (and avoid!) some of our nosy questions.

What is the most important thing that you’d want people to know about you?

I would want people to know (and most people close to me already do! that I am disciplined, hardworking and persistent.

Did you have an early interest in fashion, or was it something that came later?

Yes, I had an interest in fashion from my childhood days. When I would draw pictures, I remember drawing only pictures of brides in their dresses and sarees. I would also dress up all my Virgin Mary statues with brocade fabric (I’m sure she didn’t mind it at all! and this passion for it kept, and will keep on growing.

What have you learned so far about being creative and an entrepreneur?

I have learned that I have to set my own timelines and own boundaries to excel in my creativity and be what I want myself to be. In addition, self-discipline provides inner strength and confidence which allows me to take decisions in a calm and composed manner.
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It’s Time for Professional Societies to Be Bold and Wise 0 671

Boldness is a leadership trait to be mastered. Here are actions that make bold people admirable.

The day I went off to university, a friend gave me this quote. Over the years it has inspired me and I have seen it posted on the walls and bulletin boards of many entrepreneurs and leaders.

Bold people stand out from the group. They are confident, courageous, and directed. I believe there is boldness in most people. Given the right set of circumstances, many will take action to better the world around them.

People who choose to be bold are inspiring not just because they get big things accomplished, but because they also instigate growth, progress, and movement for themselves and others around them. Sadly, far more people wait for someone who is bold to lead the way, hoping somehow luck will shine success upon them.

Perhaps it is time to unleash the bold leader in you. Try adding these actions to your daily repertoire and see how much faster the magic of boldness takes you toward success.

01. They own their flaws and strengths. There is a difference between boldness and carelessness. Bold leaders have strong self-awareness. They know when they should take bold action and when they are out of their element. They minimize the risk for themselves and others by constantly reassessing themselves and engaging others to accommodate for personal weakness.

Want to be a bold leader?

Be more self-aware. Engage others who can complement your strengths and compensate for your weaknesses.

02. They keep clear priorities. Someone who constantly jumps into action without a plan is not bold- just foolish. Bold people know their objectives and prioritize them clearly. They can afford to be bold because they can recognize the right opportunity when it comes along.

Want to be a bold leader?

Know clearly what you need to accomplish and seek those changes that will move the team forward. Avoid unimportant activities that lead to distraction.

03. They speak up. Bold people are not necessarily loud or boisterous, but when they have something to say they say it. More importantly, they understand when and how to say it. Being bold does not equal being a bully or a loudmouth. Bold leaders must be better at tact and empathy because the very nature of their words will carry power and impact. Bold leaders also understand that silence is often the greatest statement one can make, and they use it judiciously.

Want to be a bold leader?

Say what needs to be said before the silence derails the team.

04. They pair action with knowledge. Even though bold leaders are prone to action, they are rarely considered rash. They apply the same sense of action to learning and due diligence as they do to any other activity. Bold leaders want to make sure their actions lead to success, so they investigate before leading their team to the charge.

Want to be a bold leader?

Improve your odds of success by doing your homework. You’ll increase your confidence and your success rate.

05. They accept the value of failure. No one is totally comfortable with failure, but bold leaders understand that greater rewards stem from greater risk. Still, they know how to mitigate catastrophic risk and how to protect their team. Bold leaders also know how to use risks to their advantage. They harness the energy and adrenaline and make sure that every failure is a learning opportunity.

Want to be a bold leader?

Make failure an acceptable part of your process. Teach the team how to assess and limit risk, so missteps can happen without total destruction. Then get people to learn and reboot.

06. They make the most of small wins. Many people sit and wait around for the “right opportunity” before they are willing to step up and take action. Sadly, sometimes that right opportunity never comes. Bold people understand that rarely is any situation perfect from the beginning. They look to make the most of any given set of circumstances that can lead to victory, even a small one. Cumulatively, consistent little wins spell success, attracting followers.

Want to be a bold leader?

Start with a small battle you think you can win, map out a plan, and take the field. Winning builds confidence as well as your reputation.

07. They build momentum. Bold people recognize that a single victory is not enough to sustain leadership. They work to create a series of actions that help the team gather confidence, speed, and power. They have a sense of when to add energy to drive forward and when to let the momentum itself carry things forward efficiently.

Want to be a bold leader?

Craft your plan so that each action takes advantage of the success from the last. Take advantage of any win that gains attention, respect, and popularity. Activate your fans, cultivate relationships, build buzz. Don’t coast!

By: Chantal D.