Cheaters would have done it differently! 0 516

By: Savannah Audrey

Cheating is a complicated business. Sometimes, the relationship is falling apart, or one person isn’t getting his needs met, but other times, it’s not always easy to get to the bottom of what makes someone cheat. And most of the time, someone who cheats is looking for an emotional connection as much as it is a physical one.Trusting

“Cheating allows someone to escape,” Joshua Klapow, PhD, clinical psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show, tells Bustle. “They can be with a person where problems and conflicts don’t exist, where they get respite, support, and validation.” And yet, affairs aren’t always that simple.

 

In fact, it looks like a lot of people who have cheated wish that their affairs had gone a little differently. Ashley Madison, on the extra-marital affairs website, recently shared a survey that discovered 53 percent of cheaters wished they had approached their affairs differently. Although interestingly, the survey doesn’t look at how many people (if any) wished they hadn’t had one at all.

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What do cheaters wish that they had done differently?

Well, a lot of the regrets, perhaps unsurprisingly, revolved around wishing they had put a lot more thought into their infidelity before they just jumped right in. Here’s what the survey found

 

They Wished They Spent More Time Seeking Out The Right Affair Partner:

It’s easy to see why you’d want to make sure it was with the right person. Not just someone who’s discreet, but someone who is going to give you whatever it is that you think you’re really looking for. Many of them wish they had put some more time in at this stage.

 

They Wished They’d Been More Explicit And Direct About What They’re Looking For In An Affair:

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Non-Physical behaviors that count as cheating 0 836

By: Chantal D.

What counts as cheating? It’s a question that we may never have a straight answer to. With more and more ways to keep in touch through technology and social media, there are a lot of blurred lines when it comes to what is and isn’t appropriate. 

Texting a friend is fine, but texting a friend before bed every night might be considered less fine. But where are the boundaries?

Besides the obvious sexual acts what is really fascinating about these results is that an emotional connection is actually far more likely to be considered cheating than other explicitly sexual things — like sending naked photos to someone else. That may be for a very good reason — emotional infidelity can be extremely painful.

“Emotional cheating is very hurtful, to know that someone is cheating on us emotionally is heart breaking.”

Why does emotional cheating hurt so much? Well, it’s impossible to write it off as just a little “blip”. If your partner has sex with someone else you can rationalize that ‘it didn’t mean anything’ or ‘it was just sex’. But with emotional cheating, the person obviously does mean something to your partner. It feels like more of a threat to the stability and longevity of your relationship.NFB-01

It’s very serious stuff. Although one heartening part of this is, considering how many different things might be considered cheating and how varied people’s opinions are.

But if you’re not sure about where some of the boundaries fall, here’s what some had to say about the non-physical behaviors that count as cheating, because they’re way more lax than you might have thought. 

Forming A Deep Emotional Bond With Someone Else:

The number one action that people considered cheating was forming an emotional connection with someone else; this can cross the line into infidelity. Some emotional connection like friendships, can be totally innocent, but in other cases they’re definitely inappropriate.

Sending Naked Pictures To Someone Else: 

People sending naked pictures to someone other than your partner would 100 percent be cheating, and yet, sending nudes is OK to many people.

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Texting Erotic Messages to Someone Else: 

Sexting someone else may seem pretty inappropriate, but only few thinks that they should be considered cheating. I guess there’s a lot of sliding into the DMs happening. 

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Natural Healthy Recipes by Mapa’s Fusions 0 479

Meal

Appetizer-

Boiled Prawns in Sour Rice& Mixed Bean Sprouts – Rajarata Style

Ingredients

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  • El rice 500 gr
  • Red onion (shallots) 150 gr
  • Pinch of salt
  • Coconut milk 05cups
  • Lime 02 nos
  • Garlic 10 gr
  • Dried red chilies 05 pods
  • Few mint leaves
  • Green gram 50 gr
  • Green chilies 05 pods
  • Boiled prawns 150 gr
  • Chickpeas 100 gr

Method

  • Soak the green gram and, chickpeas in water for 12 hours. Drain the water, wrap them in a wet cloth and keep overnight to let them sprout. Or you can buy from the market mixed beans sprout packets.
  • Soak the cooked rice in little water. Leave in a closed pot over night to ferment and drain well before use.
  • Burn red chilies in open fire and crush into pieces.
  • Squeeze coconut milk mixed well with salt and lime juice
  • Make a fine mix of pieces of coarsely chopped red onions and Chile pods
  • Boil the prawns in seasoned water
  • Add all the ingredients together with coconut milk and mix well,
  • Correct the seasoning.