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Marriage is made in heaven…..
So are thunder and lightning!
The fairytale story that once a couple is married, they “live happily ever after” is a total myth… a fabrication of the story-teller’s imagination. Based on statistics, being “happily married” is as much of a myth as the fairy tale.
“Marriages are made in heaven” is an extremely famous quote but I could never agree with it! No, marriages aren’t made in heaven rather they are made on earth and a lot of work goes into making them remotely earthy, forget divine! Here is why I believe that marriages are not made in heaven; 1) poor choice, 2) unrealistic expectations, and 3) failure to maintain the relationship. You are absolutely not going to be absolutely gaga over each other every single day for the rest of your lives…. You’re even going to wake up some mornings and think, “Ugh, you’re still here…..”
Lasting relationships, regardless of whether two people concerned are married or not, are mainly based on a mix of rights and obligations for alifetime. It is the physical, mental and spiritual unison of two souls. The ones made in the heart rust with time, the ones made in the mind lack intimacy, the ones made in both heart and mind last. Heaven comes nowhere in it.
Any fact or bit of knowledge we teach a child might be obsolete when they are adults but values endure through all changes.
To parent our children to be exceptional, we must allow our children to experience ‘optimal levels of frustration’ It is our job to love and support them through their struggles but to refrain from solving their problems for them.
We need to equip our children with the insight that their struggles and failures serve as master teachers that help grow them into stronger, more successful people. It is important we help our children overcome the emotional blocks they face, which breed thoughts of small-mindedness and create self-imposed limitations. We must teach them to set high standards for themselves and to never apologize for striving to live up to those higher standards. Our goal as parents should be to encourage our children to think as big as they can, expect nothing less than the best, to have courage and most importantly, to be kind.
To be successful, our children must understand the value that others hold in their lives. We must teach them that fundamental to happiness and success are healthy, supportive and successful relationships. We must encourage our children to get involved in extracurricular activities and give them chores and responsibilities in the home as ways to garner a sense of teamwork into their repertoire of life skills.
It is essential we also involve ourselves in their lives, as this gives us the opportunity to set the standards for the work they need to accomplish inside and outside of the home. The standards we set must be challenging, yet achievable. In doing this, we teach our children to be a valuable asset to each environment they are a part of. The value of teamwork keeps our children from being self-centered and entitled. We must help our children understand they can only go so far in life alone. Our goal must be to show our children that joining forces with others enhances each person’s personal power and elevates the success of all.
Personal power and complacency cannot co-exist. We must parent our children to dedicate time and energy whenever necessary to ensure that no important areas of what they need to accomplish are being neglected.
They deserve to have work-time and free-time where they are able to take a minute to feel unrestricted from the weight of their responsibilities. The easiest way to balance work-life for our children is to require they put their responsibilities first and free-time second. This value helps them manage their own lives in a highly effective way. Putting free-time second allows our children to not be bogged down with nagging responsibilities during their free-time, because they have none. When we teach our children to set high standards in all areas of their lives, they will come to see that their hard work rewards their free-time and vice versa.
Seeing possibilities where others see problems
When we teach our children to approach their challenges with a belief in solutions, this encourages them to engage in the creative process of examining and architecting alternate routes up the mountain. Being solution-focused safeguards our children from defeatist thinking. It is our job to teach them that if they cannot find a solution, they must open their mind, seek the advice of others and apply new ideas and suggestions until barriers are removed and their problem is solved. When we parent in this way, our children learn that life is full of possibility when they apply persistence and consistency in thought and action towards solving their problems. When solutions are the focus, we teach our children the all-important skill of pivoting in life whenever necessary.
To grow our children in their personal power, we must parent them with a ‘motivation mindset’ by teaching them to consistently monitor, evaluate and adjust to the work ahead of them and their attitude about it and to stay clear of sabotaging beliefs that may drive complacency, too much time on electronics and other roadblocks that interfere in them living up to their higher standards.
One of the best ways to keep our children motivated is to teach them to write things down as a method of defining their goals and direction. Encouragement, validation, and support must be consistent in our parenting. Our children want to live up to our expectations and our acknowledgment of their effort is almost always what they experience as their greatest reward.
One of the most important values we teach our children is ‘the power of now’
Success is deeply rooted in having exceptional time-management skills. We must parent our children to get their most important tasks accomplished first. It is natural to want to avoid stress but if we can teach our children to get their most stressful tasks done first, the rest of the work they need to accomplish will be much easier.
When our children get caught in the small non-urgent tasks, it pulls them away from the more important aims requiring their attention. It is also important to teach our children to be on time or early to all commitments. No one likes dealing with people who are chronically late. We must parent our children to understand that being on time makes other people respect them and to see them as dependable.
For our children to be and feel successful we must parent them to understand that whatever happens in their life or career, the best path to follow is always to take responsibility for the outcomes, both positive and negative, which are the result of their efforts. If they make a mistake, we must encourage them to see their mistake as a self-created learning experience. We must help them examine what they need to shift and change to avoid making this same mistake in the future. Taking responsibility allows our children to learn the value of humility and to be flexible enough in their thinking to change their approach whenever necessary. We must parent our children to believe that true power is understanding that mistakes gift them with more than they take away from them. It is from their mistakes that all of their new directions will arise. It is important for our children to understand that powerful leadership is not about ego; it is about humility and a willingness to learn.
There is no greater a value to teach our children than the value of kindness. Kindness does not turn our children into sappy pushovers. It turns them into classy people who possess good character.
We must teach our children that all people have value and that they can deliver both good and bad news to others with a sense of grace. We must parent our children to be kind to themselves, as our children can be so hard on themselves when things are challenging them. When we are kind to our children, our children believe we see them as deeply valuable. When our children believe that we see them as valuable, they learn to value themselves. Their belief in their personal value sets them up to live their lives with a solid sense of confidence in who they are and what they have to offer. As parents we want to create an emotional environment of kindness that is infectious, contagious and advantageous to the children we are raising. Kindness will take our children further in life than any other human characteristic.
‘Fitness is about much more than exercise. It is a catalyst for positive change, and it affects every aspect of your life’
Your body archives only what your mind believes!
Have you tried to lose weight but failed diet after diet?
Are your energy levels low, especially in the afternoon!
Do you find your stress levels so high that you find it hard to enjoy life, be more productive at work?
If you answered yes to any of these, then I have just the answer you’re looking for;
Being healthy has become very popular in Sri Lanka as much as around the world, and continue to grow every day. In fact it has become the number one activity in Colombo. Every day thousands of people go to the gym, or yoga, or aerobics…. It just goes on…
Eating a healthy balanced diet accompanied by regular exercise is essential in maintaining physical and mental health and well-being. Not only are these effective in preventing excess weight gain or in maintaining weight loss, but healthier lifestyles are also associated with improved sleep and mood.
The obesity level remains worryingly high, with nearly 30% of the global population being overweight or obese. This figure is set to rise to almost half of the world’s adult population by 2030, according to the McKinsey Global Institute. The fundamental cause of excess weight and obesity is an imbalance between energy intake and energy expenditure.
Globally, the intake of energy-dense foods that are high in saturated fat, salt and sugar has increased. We also consume insufficient amounts of fruits, vegetables, dairy, whole grains and oily fish, which has an additive effect on the health impact of poor diet.
(Source: Science Daily)
It has been proven by studies that the average person wishes that he was in better physical shape, including me. Lifestyle advice should be appropriate, personalized, safe and effective as well as ensuring equality.
Therefore, we spoke to a person who has learned it the hard way and found answers to all the questions that pop up every day in our minds.
Chamara, who has been overweight in his whole life, having six packs was just an impossible dream because he was gaining weight just by looking at food. He had been working out for more than 11 years with just one goal in mind – losing fat. He had followed every possible diet but nothing had really worked. After struggling for many years with no proper result, he finally understood the right way to lose fat and stay healthy.
Being a professional diet, workout and nutrition consultant for more than 10 years, Chamara spoke to BiZnomics about fitness, healthy eating and simple ways to make lifestyle changes to achieve the impossible goals.
BiZnomics: What was the turning point in your life?
Answer: Being overweight and unhealthy in the better part of my life, my confidence and quality of life were severely affected. I realized that I couldn’t live my whole life not knowing what it feels like to be truly proud of my body; even though I had been working out for more than 11 years without achieving a significant change. Finally I realized there were many misguidance when it comes to losing fat, starting from the diet. Fitness is about so much more than exercise. It’s a catalyst for positive change, and it affects every aspect of your life. I believe that after many years of struggling, I found the right and the most effective way to lose body fat and at the same time eat healthily without restricting oneself to live with salads.
BiZnomics: What evaluations do you conduct with a new client eager to begin a fitness regimen?
Answer: I prefer to meet the person however, if I can’t get the information over the phone. I make the diet and workout plan practical as possible so that they can be consistent on it. Their usual meal time, amount intake, number of workout days per week, workout time, their normal activities, age, height, weight, their body measurements are all important to compare the results.
BiZnomics: Do you do any changes to training or meal plan during the session?
Answer: Yes, I do every week if I don’t see any results. I don’t give just a workout or diet plan, I provide a service that truly works if they are consistent on it.
BiZnomics: How do you motivate discouraged individuals?
Answer: Motivation is one of the biggest obstacles when it comes to exercise. It is human nature to try to avoid pain and discomfort. Once you understand firsthand the tremendous impact fitness can have on your life, you can push through any self-imposed limits. When people are at the brink of wanting to give up, I try to bring them back to the bigger picture.
Bionomics: What type of training do you carry out?
Answer: Resistance training and cardio like jogging, walking, cycling.
BiZnomics: Do you recommend dietary supplements to enhance your client’s performance?
Answer: No, being consistent with the diet and workout is enough to get the result.
BiZnomics: What are your thoughts about vegan food and organic food?
Answer: I personally think it is best to have organic food because they contain fewer synthetic pesticides and fertilizers, and are also free of hormones and antibiotics. Being vegan is a personal choice. They just have to make sure of having a balanced diet that contains enough protein, carbs and fat.
BiZnomics: What qualifications made you the best person for this?
Answer: Personal experience, and understanding nutrition and how it works.
It’s not about what you’re eating, it is about how your body reacts to that.
BiZnomics: What mantra do you live by?
Answer: “Never trade what you want most for what you want at that moment”
BiZnomics: What impact do you want to have at the world?
Answer: To be great in what I do and to be a person who can truly make a change in someone else’s living pattern. Our environment does not sufficiently enable the public to make healthier choices easily. Unhealthy diet and physical inactivity contribute substantially to the global burden of disease.
Life is all about compromises, right?
Well, if you think you can ignore your bad eating habits
Just because you exercise regularly, think again.
A mistake that many people make is thinking
that if you burn off a ton of calories at the gym
you can eat whatever you want.
Or, if you’re ‘naturally’ thin you don’t have to watch what you eat.
Unfortunately, trading an hour in the gym for a greasy double.
cheeseburger or relying on a good metabolism to take the place
of healthy eating habits completely misses the point of living a healthy lifestyle…..
Stay tuned for our next edition on Chamara talking about “Why you should make a healthy food choice”