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Marriage is made in heaven…..
So are thunder and lightning!
The fairytale story that once a couple is married, they “live happily ever after” is a total myth… a fabrication of the story-teller’s imagination. Based on statistics, being “happily married” is as much of a myth as the fairy tale.
“Marriages are made in heaven” is an extremely famous quote but I could never agree with it! No, marriages aren’t made in heaven rather they are made on earth and a lot of work goes into making them remotely earthy, forget divine! Here is why I believe that marriages are not made in heaven; 1) poor choice, 2) unrealistic expectations, and 3) failure to maintain the relationship. You are absolutely not going to be absolutely gaga over each other every single day for the rest of your lives…. You’re even going to wake up some mornings and think, “Ugh, you’re still here…..”
Lasting relationships, regardless of whether two people concerned are married or not, are mainly based on a mix of rights and obligations for alifetime. It is the physical, mental and spiritual unison of two souls. The ones made in the heart rust with time, the ones made in the mind lack intimacy, the ones made in both heart and mind last. Heaven comes nowhere in it.
Masked dancing is practised in various forms in certain Asian countries notably India, Bhutan, Tibet, China, Korea, Thailand Malaysia and Sri Lanka as well as among different tribes in Africa. In India, Bhutan, and Tibet masked dancing known as Cham, takes the form of a Buddhist monastery festival where the ritual dance is accompanied by chanting, sounds of cymbals, longhorns and drums with the dancers wearing wooden and brightly coloured larger than life papier mache, intricately painted.
In Sri Lanka, masked dancing which has a tradition all its own is considered a sort of ceremonial dance. Commonly known as ‘Devil dancing’ due to the masks worn being related to malignant beings such as the Gara Yaka, Reeri Yaka, Mahasona and Suniyan Yaka it is believed to have prevailed in the country even before the introduction of Buddhism and is still largely resorted to especially in the Southern and Uva Provinces. The chief characteristic of mask dancing is that all forms are directed to a super human being.
‘’According to folk belief, demons exhort offerings from human beings by sending on them sicknesses ranging from deafness to cholera and other calamities including fear of death.’’
These misfortunes it is believed can be eliminated by proper offerings accompanied by suitable ceremonies. There are 18 physical and psychological ailments known as sanni in Sinhala tradition, attributed to demons. Masked dance healing liturgies referred to as sanni yakuma are adopted to liberate people from these sicknesses caused by unscrupulous hideous demons.
Commonly known as a Thovile, the mask dance itself is the representation of the super natural being by a dancer or a troupe of dancers and the descending of the invoked-being into the dancer, and sometimes even into some of the onlookers. Several forms of mask dances (thovils) exist, each for a specific purpose. A thovil ceremony performed in times of sickness has always been interesting and although elaborate, is merely an exorcism to expel the demon (yaka) by which the sick person is believed to be possessed.
Bonded and an embraced journey reminiscences on how “a flavor that was buckled” in a rapport of Two Humans for a Soul affiliation. Yes, I mean Marriage. Elders define marriage as: A connection of Souls, a culture of love, an Aroma: Spice, Regret, Benefits, and Happiness (Childbirth pleasure), privacy, kindergarten joys, parenting and an un-prescribed journey in marriage livelihood.
Culturally and historically, recalling marriage during the primitive age ‘was like an ape taking an apple from the ground, and distributing the fruit to its people’ sounds interesting. Fruit offered not because of lending charity to its family, but, it was a showering love and care for its family. Yes, it was a customary practice and women were treated as (Lakshmi) – a Griha Swamini (a Lords of the House, and priority for them, was family). Primitive day’s discussions between a husband and a wife were a gesture of noble act and kindness that has affection towards each other, a person cries – and a wife/husband wipes each other’s tears with a smile.
The word called “Relationship” in primitive age was a manifestation of a dedicated long-lasting bonding. Marriage was still continuing despite; husband/wife perishes from the earth. A primitive thought of utmost importance was to offer garlands in every path of the journey and in day-to-day and minute to minute conversations.
Ever since science improved, more manners in a relationship started changing. To quote the kingdom dominated era during those days brought more extra-curricular affairs as a culture, where the husband (rather a man/woman) wanted more satisfaction to their wants rather than their needs. In Kingdom, a King arrives – his entry was garlanded with ladies dancing in an embraced process. This pro-activated custom changed the environment and slaved the thought process of human and their desire was taken to a different mode – which perhaps, made thinking changed.
Follow-up and extracting a few tips from the Kingdom era – is what in today’s world we find more cases of divorce, rather than a healthy marriage life. What is defined here today is that a healthy marriage can still take the flavours of primitive thoughts, but with more requirements (today, being Credit Cards, Branded Dresses, Money, Wealth, Properties, two children per couple. Dating apps, and approach of dressing sense, and privacy concept is eliminating a bond, and it is just a paper ritual, called Marriage. They (couples) prefer a more conscious approach and forget their childhood which was full of joy.